Category: Let's talk
OK, just out of curiosity, are you a person who is more outgoing and maybe has lots of friends and acquaintances and likes to be around people, or are you more comfy with your own company and maybe the company of a few people? I tend to be more intraverted, so that means I am usually pretty happy with my own company or maybe having a few people around. I still like to just go off someplace and read a good book or such.
I guess I'm an extrovert for the most part. I love talking to people and hanging around in large and rather noisy groups, but when I'm around people I don't really know, i clam up.
That's exactly what makes me an intravert, really. Put me in some unfamiliar place with strangers and I just clam right up. I have a helluva time just going up to random folks and starting a conversation. I fear I might be getting pickier and pickier about the people I want to meet as I grow older.
I'm both. And by that I don't mean that I'm a mixture... which would be ideal. No, rather, I'm in the slightly schizophrenic position of vacillating between the two extremes at unpredictable intervals, especially when alcohol is involved. Just kidding about that last part :-).
Once I know people, I'd say I'm quite chatty, but getting to know people, I find a real issue, because I refuse to be what people expect or want me to be. If I have something to say, I usually say it, a personality traight which not many people favour. I love having friends and talking to them, but put me in a party situation, or a big crowd of people, an I absolutely hate it. I hate being in the spotlight apart from if it's for something that I really believe or enjoy doing. I dont' try to draw attention to myself, but, a lot of the time, I can't seem to help it. I hate that.
I learned in my twenties that me and parties didn't go together well. I usually ended up in the corner with drinks and food in hand and not talking to anyone. Then when I get up, people think I need to get someplace when I wanted to atempt to mingle if I could. Hahahaha!
ahg i just hate everything about them, too self-conscious, unnecessarily so.
Hi Labyrinth,
Well I'm not sure what I am, I don't know if I'm an introvert extravert, or an extroverted introvert. I have never been shy, never really understand those shy ones who say, I'm real shy and don't talk until I get to know you. How can you get to know someone ifyou don't talk to them? I hate being in crowds, and if it's a choice, I'd rather be alone than be with people who I have nothing in common with, I won't say boring, because, 1, boring is a matter of opinion, and what bores one person may interest someone else. 2, even if a person is boring, he/she can't help it, no one sets out to be boring. I'd prefer to refer to it as a lack of common interests. I prefer one on ones with someone I have things in common with, and whom I have a goodcomaradarie with, someone who at least understands where I'm coming from, even if they don't agree with me. I've always had this fantasy about coming in contact with someone who has my personality, who is identical to me in thought and feelings, but I'm too unique for that to ever happen, lol.
wonderwoman
I'd say I'm a little of both stimulating company is wonderful and there's nothing better than good craic, but peace and quiet to think, or do feck all, is too precious..especially in our situation.
Wonder why would you want an identical version of yourself why do you need that constant affirmation of your views and ideas, or is it down to deep insecurity and a need to know that you are always right...hmm? Your admission was telling it defined everything I dislike in a person..fortunately I have no need of a clone or otherwise, the idea of someone indefinately agreeing with me, is deeply abhorrent
Ok Goblin, this is the last time I will reply to your posts, can't a person say anything around here without you jumping on everything? I did not say I wanted someone to agree with everything I said, just someone as much like me as possible. And I wasonly half joking anyway, and I'd hate to think there are hundreds more like you. if it ever gets to that point, I think I'd rather be a recluse. That said, I refuse to respond to anymore of your posts, you are not worth my time and energy.
wonderwoman
Extrovert here
yep as I thought hmm
Well, difficult question. I like having friends and having people around, but somehow not many people (at least in Germany) want to hang out with me. But if there are people to hang out with, I'll be the last one who stays at home watching TV or doing other "couch potato"-stuff.